Embracing Transitions This Fall

Author: Alysha Ackley

Fall is just one period of change, but it is one we can expect every year. However, many other transitions are unexpected and it can be difficult to embrace them. Transitions are a topic that comes up frequently in session with clients. Whether it's graduating from school, starting a new job, entering or ending a relationship, moving, or another adjustment, change is the one constant. While transitions can feel overwhelming, they also hold the potential for growth.

As Kerrie shared in her recent blog post, focusing on the saying “Que será, será”, “what will be, will be”. This mindset can be grounding when navigating the unknown. It reminds us that while we can’t control every outcome, we can choose how we support ourselves in the process and navigate through the transition..

What makes transitions challenging is often the mix of emotions they bring, excitement, grief, fear, hope, and everything in between. These emotions can trigger defenses that make us want to resist or avoid discomfort. But transitions are not necessarily ‘good or bad’, they invite us to let go of what was and lean into what could be.

Here are a few helpful ways to navigate through a transitional time:

Lean In

Discomfort is not a sign that something is wrong, it’s often a sign that something is changing. Leaning into discomfort doesn't mean suffering through it alone. It means giving yourself permission to feel your feelings without judgment and recognizing that uncertainty is part of the growth process. This can look like giving yourself time to sit with what you are feeling. Ground yourself in your body through breath work or other mindfulness techniques, or notice what happens when you are uncomfortable. 

Routine, Routine, Routine

During transitions, it’s easy to lose sight of the habits that help us. This is why establishing or maintaining a routine can be incredibly supportive. Routine provides a sense of predictability when other areas of life do not. Some examples may include things as simple as a consistent bedtime, limiting screen time when you wake up, and eating regular meals.

Reflect

Transitions are a great time to reflect. In our ever busy world, we are often constantly on the go, and it can be hard for us to reflect on how far we have come. Journaling is a great way to slow down, gain perspective, and understand what you are feeling.

Connect

One of the most healing things we can do in transition is connect with others. Talking to a friend, therapist, or colleague can help normalize your experience and remind you that you’re not the only one navigating change.

Sharing your story and hearing someone else validate your feelings can be relieving. Connection is a good time to also show yourself compassion. Transitions can bring up the internal pressure to “get it together.” But growth is rarely linear. Offer yourself the same compassion you would extend to a friend. 

While transitions often challenge us, they also help us. The fall season is a wonderful time to focus inward and better understand yourself without judgment and with self-compassion.